Strap-On Harness Guide 2023

Finding the right strap-on harness is just as important as finding the right dildo to put in it.

It’s often an overlooked part of a strap-on sex but I’m here to change that so you get the most comfortable and stable strap-on for your body type.

Joque

$ 150
  • Very comfortable
  • 1.25-2-inch O-ring
  • Max 50" waist
Best

Lovehoney Full-Back

$ 30
  • Full-back strap
  • 3 x O-rings
  • Very cheap
Budget

Aslan

$ 190
  • High-quality leather harness
  • Corset-style design
  • 1.25-2-inch O-ring
Leather

How are the harnesses rated?

We put a lot of focus on the quality of the sex toys we review here at Kinkycow and that’s also the case with strap-on harnesses.

These are the most important things we rate them on:

  • Quality
  • Features
  • Price

All the harnesses on the list below all have a great relation between price and the quality and features.

best strap-on harness

Table of Contents

What’s the Best Strap-On Harness?

#1 SpareParts Joque Double Strap Harness

The Joque strap-on harness from SpareParts has a large supporting back-strap with a soft padding on the inside for a comfortable wearing experience.

It has 4 strap tightness adjustment point to make it fit your body shape perfectly and the stretchable O-ring can hold suction-cup dildos with a diameter between 1-2-inches.

You can get the harness is a black, purple, or red color.

spareparts strap-on harness

This is what I like about it:

  • High-quality build and materials
  • Comfortable to wear
  • Double straps for extra support
  • Available in 3 colors
  • 2 pockets for vibrating bullets
  • Stretchable O-ring between 1.25-2 inches

This is what I don’t like about it:

  • The waist strap does “only” go to 50-inches (127cm)
  • It’s on the expensive side
  • You can’t replace the O-ring

What I Think About the Joque Strap-On Harness

The Joque strap-on harness from SpareParts sets a really high standard with its high build quality and material choices.

It does take a little time to adjust everything the right way but that’s well worth the wait.

It’s so goddamn comfortable to wear, compared to almost all other harnesses, that you can go on for hours without thinking about it.

The large back-strap is great at supporting even large dildos and I had no trouble handling a 9” dildo in it.

Just be mindful of the size as it only goes up to 50-inches in waist circumference.

I recommend the Joque strap-on harness if you’re after a high-quality comfortable strap-on harness.

#2 Lovehoney Full-Back Strap-On Harness – Best Budget

This is Lovehoney’s budget option when it comes to strap-on harnesses and it has a large back-strap that supports the weight of even large dildos.

You can adjust the tightness with 4 strap-tighteners on the sides of your waist.

full back strap-on harness

This is what I like about it:

  • Very cheap
  • Full back support
  • Including 3 O-rings
  • Up to 68-inch (172cm) waist size

This is what I don’t like about it:

  • The strap material is a little rough on the skin
  • Quality and materials are not the best

What I Think About the Full-Back Strap-On harness

There is no doubt that this is a budget strap-on harness option and you don’t get the best quality in the world but the features and comfort level earn it a top spot as the best budget option.

I personally love that they’ve included the large back support which is crucial for comfortable use especially if you plan on using a larger than average dildo.

I found the strap material a little annoying after a while but nothing major and certainly not a deal breaker.

I recommend the Lovehoney Full-Back Strap-On Harness if you’re after a budget harness.

#3 Aslan Leather Strap-On Harness

The Aslan leather harness has a large corset style back support with lacing and an interchangeable O-ring at the front. The entire harness is made of leather and stainless steel of high-quality.

There is a second small strap-on intended for a butt-plug or an anal dildo to be enjoyed by the wearer.

You can select between 2 sizes; a small which fits a hip size between 26-44-inches (66-112cm) and a large that fits 36-56-inches (91-142cm).

aslan leather harness

This is what I like about it:

  • Very high-quality leather work
  • Super fine details
  • It looks so good
  • 2 Size options
  • Great back support
  • Butt plug strap

This is what I don’t like about it:

  • Only a single O-ring included (you can buy other sizes)
  • It does take long time to put on and adjust

What I Think About the Aslan Leather Harness

This is the definition of high-quality when it comes to leather harnesses and you’re not going to find anything that matches it unless you get some custom $500 harness done for you.

I absolutely love the corset lacing back support which looks freaking amazing and it helps to support whatever dildo you’ve mounted in the O-ring. You can also get a less expensive version with a classic back support but I find it hard to recommend when I tried the corset style one.

I recommend the Aslan Leather Strap-On Harness if you’re after the best leather strap-on harness.

#4 Sportsheets Chantilly Lace Corset-Back Strap-On Harness

Sportsheets is behind this corset-style harness called Chantilly that comes with 3 O-rings so you can find the perfect size O-ring for your dildos.

The harness can be adjusted up to fitting a 60-inch (152cm) hip size by losing the straps on the side.

This is what I like about it:

  • Super cute corset-style harness
  • Comes with 3 O-rings
  • Comfortable to use
  • Budget friendly
  • I work all the way up to a 60-inch (152cm) hip size

This is what I don’t like about it:

  • The lace is not meant to be tighten super hard
  • Not the best support for large dildos

What I Think About the Chantilly Harness

I love this little cute corset-style strap-on harness from Sportsheets and it’s my favorite corset-style if you’re on a budget or simply don’t want one made of leather.

It’s pretty comfortable to use and I had no problem wearing it for 45 minutes.

I recommend the Chantilly from Sportsheets if you’re after a super cute strap-on harness for a cheap price.

#5 Ruffled Harness

This little Ruffled harness is made by Pink B.O.B. and can be yours for the small price of just $43. It comes with 4 O-rings is different sizes so it shouldn’t be a problem finding one that fits your dildos.

The strap-on part of the harness has some ruffles around the edge for a little more feminine look. 

It’s adjustable up to a 60-inch (152cm) waist.

This is what I like about it:

  • Fairly cheap harness
  • Cute look
  • 4 O-rings included
  • Large comfortable back-strap

This is what I don’t like about it:

  • The ruffles do start to itch a little

What I Think About the Ruffled Harness

I’ve put this in the last spot on my list of the best strap-on harness but that does not mean it’s bad. There are simply just other better products out there, but I’ve still included it because you’re getting quite a lot for your money.

The ruffles did start to itch on my skin after a while and it’s not as comfortable as some of the more expensive models, so not recommended if you’re planning on going past the half hour mark.

It is however recommended if you want a good beginner strap-on harness that fits most suction-cup dildos.

FAQ

A: All you have to do is:

  1. Loosen the waist strap and the thigh straps so you easily can fit in them.
  2. Put on an O-ring that matches the girth of the dildo you plan to use.
  3. Put on the harness like a pair of panties.
  4. Tighten the straps around your waist and thighs
  5. Apply lube to the dildo and you’re now ready for sex.

Tip: you can always readjust the straps later on if you find it too loose or too tight.

A: Most harnesses can be adjusted by pulling or losing the strap around your waistline. Some harnesses are one-size and made of stretchy material that can’t be tighten.

A: You can make a DIY robe strap-on harness but that’s something I’ve never done before, but it might be an interesting project and article for the future.

A: Most harnesses can be machine washed but please read the instructions that come with your harness before doing that.

A: Suction-cup dildos with a standard size cup works with most strap-on harnesses. But it also depends on the girth of the dildo and the O-ring size you have. Make sure that diameter of the O-ring is a tiny bit bigger than the diameter of the shaft of your suction-cup dildo.

My Final Thoughts About Strap-On Harnesses

A strap-on harness is a great way to bring extra life into your suction-cup dildos. It’s a very versatile sex toy accessory that can be used by all kinds of kinky stuff for all sexes.

I’ve written a guide to the best suction-cup dildos which works nicely with a strap-on harness that you should check out if you haven’t got one.

Doesn’t any of the harnesses fit your size? Head over to my guide to plus size strap-ons and find one that suits your body type better.

Feel free to post questions in the comments below or send me an email at [email protected] for more personal questions.

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